Cultivating IRL Mates in a “Postmates” World
The holiday season is well underway! It’s meant to be a joyful time of the year, but for some, the season may be met with angst, particularly when you’re navigating the holidays solo.
Wine Supper at Chef Jerry Edward's (founder of Chef's Expressions) home. Ex-strangers, new connections.
Mixolo wants to make it easy for you to go out and cultivate new connections and expand your community IRL (in real life) around the things you want to do and find your joy even, and especially, when you’re on your own.
There are more people living solo than ever before and the trend continues.
· 30% of households in the US alone are occupied by one resident.
· Single adults make up about 1/3 of the entire US population.
· Single women will account for 45% of the US population by 2030.
That said, Mixolo defines solo as “self-determined.” We attract people in relationships as well, together or on their own.
With the advent of clever technology, it’s become easier to check out, literally and figuratively, without ever having to encounter another human. We’re not about to tell you that’s all bad.
In the winter months, however, as our natural hibernating instincts kick in, we are more likely to grapple with feelings of isolation and the “L’ word - loneliness, a state of mind few of us like to acknowledge. These feelings are common, regardless of relationship status or the strength or our social circles.
The “virtual” engagement offered by social networking apps can be beneficial but has its limitations. Instagram is ending the like function on its platform due to the unintended consequences of dangerous comparisons that can lead to feelings of inadequacy and worse, marginalization.
While we can’t turn back time or progress, Mixolo was founded to offer a new way to engage and preserve the benefits of going out, doing what we love, and making meaningful connections when we do.
What we did not anticipate was the depth of societal stigmas around solo pursuits that were ingrained in our subconscious well before technology. There is stigma in being perceived as lonely or alone, though not necessarily the same thing.
Some people prefer to check out rather than experience feelings of shame, real or imagined, often perpetuated by the manner in which hospitality and entertainment venues sideline or ignore the unaccompanied guest. Those public spaces, often an integral part of a community’s local economy where real-life social networks were once built, are rapidly disappearing as we choose to order in and stay in.
Human connection remains at the top of the list of ways to manage feelings of loneliness. It is a fundamental human need to be connected socially and it is crucial to our wellbeing.
Flashback to our inaugural event. at the former Brewhouse No. 16.
When it comes down to it, managing loneliness requires that we engage in self-determined efforts to create the joy we want in our lives. However, if the feelings become acute, it’s probably a good idea to talk to someone.
There are a number of ways to take charge of those feelings. We’re serving up our favorite three holiday wishes for you:
1) Decrease your screen time and get outside. For most of us, this is the easiest. When you go outside, you literally change your mind.
2) Pursue the things you love or are curious about - even if it means stepping outside of your social bubble.
Beekeeping 101. An outdoor adventure at the Piedmont Learning Center and apiary in Gwynn Oak, MD.